if you don't mind my saying (so)

if you don't mind my saying (so)

Said before or after a comment that one thinks may make someone else feel upset, offended, or uncomfortable, especially a very direct criticism or compliment. That's a pretty naïve statement, senator, if you don't mind my saying so. If you don't mind my saying, you look extremely handsome tonight.See also: if, mind, saying

if you ˌdon’t mind me/my ˈsaying so...

(spoken) used when you are going to criticize somebody or say something that might upset them: That colour doesn’t really suit you, if you don’t mind my saying so.See also: if, mind, saying